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Is this happening with you ? ..….We often fail short of words to express our thoughts or clearly  convey our intentions.

Here comes the need to learn Public Speaking.

Public speaking or stage fear is considered to be the biggest and most common fear. But why people fear to speak? If you have clarity about the topic you want to speak, your thoughts are logically aligned in your mind , you know the appropriate words, then why this fear of public speaking. By the way what does “Public Speaking” mean? Does it mean talking in front of a large number of people or talking to your team of 10 people at your workplace or does it simply mean talking to anybody and conveying your thoughts clearly?. Does it mean that you have to speak only in a suagr coated language, dilpomatically or does it mean to express the true you? Does Public Speaking mean talking in Englsih language only?

I will try to answer these questions- To me Public speaking skills means the skills required to talk in front of the strangers. But at times the skill becomes necessary even in personal life. There might be a large audience or a small team or only one person. The point here is to put your points clearly & effectively so that the listener understands it in a way you want to convey it. It may mean speaking naturally, from your heart and doesn’t necessarily be in a sugar quoted language but in a polite way. Public speaking doesn’t mean talking in English only, it can be any language you are comfortable but to reach to the large audience you have to be fluent in English. To begin with you start improving your public speaking skills in your mother tongue also.

Since our childhood we are taught how to speak. At home , parents teach their children not to be rude with with guests or neighbors. When we communicate with our family members or friends , we are feel that they understand us , we feel some sort of support that even if we say something wrong or speak something against them, they will understand it and forgive for the mistakes if any. But there people who have the problem in speaking clearly even with their family members also, especially children fear talking to their father or a wife fears to talk to her husband or in-laws.

Public and Speaking are two different words having different meanings.

Public in general denotes some mass population ("the people") in association with some matter of common interest or concerning the people as a whole or to simply refer to “community”

Speaking is “the action of conveying information or expressing one's feelings in speech”.

Wikipedia says Public speaking (also called oratory or oration) is the process or act of performing a speech to a live audience. Public speaking is commonly understood as formal, face-to-face, speaking of a single person to a group of listeners.^[1] However, due to the evolution of public speaking, it is viewed as any form of speaking (formally and informally) between an audience and the speaker. Traditionally, public speaking was considered to be a part of the art of persuasion. The act can accomplish particular purposes including to inform, to persuade, and to entertain.

So whenever we want to express our thoughts to the other person or group of people , we need to be good at our speaking ability.

Whether you are a boss giving instructions to your subordinates or you are an employee giving some explanation to your seniors, the speaking skills can make you or break you.

Imagine if you are working in a team but you are not able to communicate with them or take a part in office / family get together or functions then people will form a opinion that you are a egoist and arrogant person. If this with office colleagues then they will talk bad about you , they will never help and co-operate you. This might make your life miserable at workplace because when at workplace you need to interact with many people.

The problem remains same even you work at a leadership level also. If you are not able to speak effectively in front of your team , how are you going to get the work done , guide them , motivate them?

There is a saying in Marathi which means “ if you keep quiet nobody will buy even the excellent quality wheat you are selling but a talkative person / a person who is good at speaking skill will be able to sell even his rotten wheat”.

Almost all the professions require good public speaking & communication skills to climb the ladder of success. Just to name a few professions - sales, teaching, political and all the service industries require great communication skills. Let's take example of a real estate business- if you don't have good communication skills , how will you interact and convince the client about the best qualities of your housing projects? How will you build a trust with them? How will you influence their buying decision?. The medium of communication could be oral or written or electronic communication. If we refer to the electronic communication skill for real estate business growth , the SEO ie search engine optimization technique will certainly of great advantage. The speed and wide spread target reach is possible through SEO and therefore it is very effective tool. Ms. Prerana has given good information about                How SEO can help in improving your website's ranking on Google, do read her blog for more details.

In this day & age , the digital communication has become so powerful that it is a must thing for everyone.....whether you are an individual or an organisation. To get an idea about digital marketing , please do read this article Power of digital marketing.

Let’s have a look at the some of the top Challenges faced by the people having stage fear or public speaking fear and also the simple ways to tackle the issue-

 1) Fear – to talk in front of people. The only solution is take the help of your family and friends…..just start talking to them, start sharing your experiences you got at school, college or workplace. The regular practice will remove your fear.

2) Anxiety – whether I will forget the things when I go in front of people or on the stage. Write down the main points of your speech on a piece of paper and carry it along with you when you are going to deliver the speech. Just have a look at those points if you forget anything.

3) Panic attack – people just go blank when they think that they have to speak in front of people.

4) Depression – getting upset just with the thought of presenting yourself in front of strangers.

5) Nervousness – feeling of upset grabs.

6) Lack of preparation – if the topic for the audience is clear but you fail to arrange the data to deliver your speech. There was a funny quote on website – www.funnp.com which I found relevant here. It goes like this:

Question:  How can I make my speech effective?
Answer: “There are three things to aim at in public speaking: first, to get into your subject, then to get your subject into yourself, and lastly, to get your subject into the heart of your audience”

7) Sleepless nights to prepare the speech – the tension and anxiety to find the perfect data for the speech keeps you awake.

8) Post traumatic stress – even after the speech is over, the speaker keep worried about the opinion the audience has formed about him.

9) Lack of attention to audience – If the speaker keeps on delivering his speech without looking at the audience, the audience will not pay attention to what he is saying or may start discussing something else amongst them. So it is very important for the speaker to have a glance at the audience. Preferably try to visualize the audience in three segments – the line sitting in front of you, the line to your right hand and the line in the left hand. Try to move your eyes across these three lines; don’t keep looking at any particular person.

 10) Body language –

The body language plays the crucial role in Public Speaking skills. You have to stand straight when you are giving you are giving your speech. You have to feel like you are a king at that moment and you are going to win. Don’t put your hands in the pockets of your trousers or don’t fiddle with hands. Make use of hands sensibly to express your point.

There is an article Ragnor Lothbrok : How to become a beast in life written by Mr. Naveen, where he shares the 7 things he learnt from Ragnor. One of the learnings of Naveen is to " Master the verbal and non verbal communication skills". Naveen mentions that in the Viking series , Ragnor has powerful body language and that he the master of verbal & non-verbal communication.

11) Pitch of the voice –

The depth and the tone of your spoken words are very crucial. Can you imagine a song if it is not sung in a rhythm or there no variation in the volume of the words…..if the song is sung in a very low tone or very high tone, it will be difficult to understand the meaning, isn’t it? In fact, the body language and the pitch contribute more than 90% of the success of your public speaking success. Let’s have a look at the short clip taken from the “PK” movie.

12) Lack of time management – If you don’t have the ability to present your data in a comprehensive manner, you will fail short of time. Before giving the speech, the speaker has to understand the time slot allotted to him and prepare his speech accordingly.

13) Lack of confidence – Most of the time the feeling of inferiority takes a toll on the speaker and he loses his confidence. The negative image about one’s looks, beauty, height etc can make people feel inferior which ultimately results in losing confidence. You have to overcome this feeling and the only way to achieve this is to know your subject well and prepare well so that you can deliver your best. 

You can take help of your subconscious mind to build confidence or boost your confidence. Your subconscious is that part of your mind which keeps influencing your behavior even if you are not aware of it. The feelings to be lacking in confidence or having fear of something , often related to childhood upbringing. You can keep telling yourself about your good points, skills & achievements so that the feeling of positivity prevails all the time. There are various techniques of subconscious mind power you can use to boost your mood. You can take help of visualization technique. I recommend you to refer the blog on The power of subconscious mind by Ms. Nisha. 

14) Lack of sense of humor – Just a serious talk or too much technical data makes the speech boring for the audience. To keep the audience feel fresh and engaged in the speech appropriate use of quotes or jokes or some lines of famous songs are necessary.

15) Lack of presence of mind – If the speaker doesn’t understand the mood of the audience, he will fail pray to the gimmicks of some troublesome people in the audience. He needs to have the presence of mind to divert any irrelevant questions raised by the audience to what the main stream of speech.

16) Story telling skill - To keep the audience engaged in speaker's speech. This skill helps the speaker to quickly connect with the audience and match the wav

So far  we have understood what is public speaking, its importance, commonly faced challenges by the people in being a good public speaker. We have also seen some of the solutions. By now you must have understood that public speaking skills can make you successful and this skill can be learned. But what is needed is to understand that you have the problem. Most of the time we are not aware that we have the problem.

I am not somebody to talk on this topic authoritatively  nor I am a famous public speaker but for a quite a long time I was did the jobs in corporates and I handled my team members & seniors. I know the reason of my failures and my strengths at workplace. It will be easy for you to connect with me because I am one of amongst you only but have learnt some lessons due to my experience. I feel I am just a step ahead of you so I can easily help you to overcome the issues in Public Speaking.

To reach out to people and to help them , I will soon be launching my online course in Public Speaking under the business name “Dakshil.Com”. The word Dakshil means “wisdom”. You have to apply wisdom if you want to succeed in your personal or professional life. Just have a look at this presentation:

This course aims to enable the people to come out of their fear of public speaking and give them some confidence. I don’t claim of giving the training to become world class public speaker. My course will definitely help you to improve your public speaking skills and achieve the personal and professional success.

 Would you like to know more about me? Well I am Jayashree Surve.

Profile:

Basically I am a Commerce graduate, ICWA (Pune topper in Final Exams – Dec 1997 batch), MCS, Diploma in Mechanical Engg.

I have more than 16 years of experience in Automobile manufacturing companies & service industry. Proven experience in cost reduction and cost saving.

Mission: 

My mission is to help 10,000 people to improve their public speaking skills to become successful in their life with my Master class on Public Speaking.

Vision:

My vision is to help 1000,000 people to improve their public speaking skills to become successful in their professional and personal life with my Mastery in Public Speaking Course.

I want to see my business DAKSHIL.COM as "The best public speaking factory service in India"

Want to know how can I help you?

I will help you out to -  

 1) Overcome the fear of public speaking.

2) To build your confidence.

3) To improve body Language.

 

Our Public Speaking course can help -

 1) To have effective communication skills.

2) To enhance the leadership skill.

3) To see the improvement in his confidence.

4) To develop the ability to read and understand the people

5) Corporate employees.

6) Job seekers.

7) Teachers.

 

I am sure you want to become successful in your life with the help of Public Speaking skill, so why not connect with us today!

 

You can join us at -

Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/jayashreeatDAKSHIL

Telegram : https://telegram.org/dl/JayashreeSurve

Twitter : https://twitter.com/SurveJayashree

 

Journey to a bright career starts now ….

 

Here is the link to our next article to know the 3 secrets of public speaking.

https://jayashree-at-dakshil.blogspot.com/2020/10/blog-2-business-secrets-3-secrets-of.html

 

Happy learning!

 

Jayashree